I've always felt that you have to do what you have to make your own decisions. Theirs always going to be people that will try to tell you what they think is right, and in their life it may have been the right thing for them but that's just it, it was right for them to but your not them. the decision they made were under particular circumstances in their life. The circumstances in your life will most likely be different and so those decisions will have different consequences good or bad. Do what you want to do its what makes you, you.